This is not to judge, but if you entered into a relationship that led to pregnancy, please don’t make abandonment or betrayal by your partner a reason to take your own life. Pain from heartbreak is real, but suicide is never the answer. It doesn’t erase the problem it only deepens the wounds, especially for the people left behind. Life has value, even when it feels broken.

Let’s be honest: when two people irresponsibly enter a relationship without considering the consequences, they become part of a growing problem. Many children today are growing up emotionally damaged or neglected not because they did anything wrong, but because the ones who brought them into the world were not ready.

Too often, after the damage is done, the responsibility is passed on to the parents. A “farewell letter” is left behind, full of guilt and blame, as if the grandparents or family were supposed to fix everything. That’s not fair. No one forced you to make that decision.

The tragedy deepens when the child is treated as the cause of the pain. Some parents, overwhelmed by bitterness, emotionally damage their children through harsh words, neglect, or resentment. This is how cycles of trauma are passed on from one generation to the next.

Saying “You don’t understand, you’re not in my shoes” does not remove accountability. Pain is not a justification for abandoning your child or yourself. If things are hard, ask for help. Cry out to God. Reach out to people. There is always a way forward, even when it’s not easy.

Life can be incredibly difficult, but that’s exactly why you must choose to live. Even broken beginnings can lead to beautiful stories. God has not forgotten you.